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 Family of Origin...Relationships/Problems - Edenville, Dublin Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy acknowledges the importance the family plays in our lives and our relationships.
- Whether we want to admit it or not our family of origin have exerted a huge influence on us and us, them. A common pattern among people is that instead of developing their own sense of who they are they come to realise that they have their parents opinions, vote for the same political party, support the same teams, shop in the same supermarket.
Murray Bowen a world renowned family therapist highlighted the concept of differentiation of self. - Bowen family systems theory is a theory of human behaviour that views the family as an emotional unit and uses systems thinking to describe the complex interactions in the unit. It is the nature of a family that its members are intensely connected emotionally.
- Often people feel distant or disconnected from their families, but this is more feeling than fact. Family members so profoundly affect each other's thoughts, feelings, and actions that it often seems as if people are living under the same "emotional skin."
- People solicit each other's attention, approval, and support and react to each other's needs, expectations, and distress. The connectedness and reactivity make the functioning of family members interdependent. A change in one person's functioning is predictably followed by reciprocal changes in the functioning of others. Families differ somewhat in the degree of interdependence, but it is always present to some degree.
- In families there are those who take on the role of peacemaker, of clown, of scapegoat and these can often be the ones most sensitive to the family anxieties.
- These are the people who accommodate the most to reduce tension in others. It is a reciprocal interaction. For example, a person takes too much responsibility for the distress of others in relationship to their unrealistic expectations of him/her. The one accommodating the most; literally "absorbs" anxiety and thus is the family member most vulnerable to problems such as depression, alcoholism, affairs, or physical illness.
- Knowledge of how the emotional system operates in one's family, work, and social systems reveals new and more effective options for solving problems in each of the area that Bowen highlighted.
- Triangles * Differentiation of Self * Nuclear family emotional system * Family Projection Process * Multigenerational Transmission Process * Emotional Cut Off * Sibling Position * Societal Emotional Process
- At Edenville counselling and psychotherapy service, Dublin 2, there is an extensive exploration and placing of the family influence in relation to the client's own understanding of where they are and how perhaps they have come to look at the world.
If you feel like you want to explore and understand yourself more then you do right now, call Edenville on 086 367 9648 and talk it out. 20 Molesworth Street, Dublin 2, Dublin City Adjacent to Dail Eireann on Kildare Street Dublin Counselling and Psychotherapy D2 2010
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